I’m Kanchan, pronounced Kun-chun, a mother of three, an author, a transformational coach, and a speaker. A survivor transcended into a thriver! I like to call myself a fighter. I can feel the pain and suffering of people in toxic intimate partner relationships. I understand how they grapple with deep physical, mental and emotional wounds even after they are free. I was trapped under the power and control of my perpetrator for a long time. I had to set myself free and take my children to a secure place. But how? I searched for it till I found it! Healing and rebuilding my life were going to be a treacherous journey but I was ready to take the challenge. It had to be a planned escape for our safe landing. I created a road map, marked with all the critical milestones. But before that I had to work on myself to regain my physical and mental strength and recover my confidence. I mapped it as my first milestone on my journey. I adapted various precision tools and methods to execute my plan and achieve the results I planned. I then changed my mental models to adapt to new beliefs and make a paradigm shift. My three new beliefs became my weapons of escape and transcendence. Belief in Self helped me get back my identity and dignity. Re-wiring and setting boundaries filled my open wounds, providing me mental space and building resilience. This strength became my power to start constructing a ramp towards freedom. Belief in the universe gave me the trust that I was not alone. It brought me collaborators in the form of angels and mentors who guided me and provided me the direction. Belief in spirituality helped me let go of my deep set hurt and fortified my very core, my being. It freed my soul of the chaos within me, bringing me peace of mind and tranquility. The three beliefs freed my body, mind, and soul.

I am a master’s in social work and possess a post graduate certificate in Personnel Management and Industrial Relations. I am an accomplished Human Resources professional of thirty plus years, twenty of which have been spent in transformational human resources as a coach, mentor, and a trainer both in Corporate America and Asia. I am a certified Business and Life coach as well as a certified Advocate and Clinician for people of domestic abuse. I have helped several women get empowered and transform themselves through coaching. I also volunteer as a coach for people of domestic abuse in the state of Illinois.
I am an ardent optimist and believe in living life to the fullest. Music of any genre or language, vocal or instrumental, keeps me connected to my soul. I like to read fiction, non-fiction, and management books. My inquisitiveness to understand cultures and ethnicities has taken me to travel to Asia and Europe. I rely on basic principles of physics, gut feeling, rewiring of the brain, and Karma theory-as you sow, so shall you reap. I strongly believe in the higher power and power of the universe and that one can regulate one’s destiny. My mantra for remaining mindful is acceptance, gratitude, and forgiveness.
I have written a memoir depicting my story of how I set myself free from domestic abuse and metamorphosized into a thriver, launched in April 2023. The purpose is to reach out to people of toxic intimate partner relationships and share my story of hope, desire, empowerment, and transformation to live a life of one’s own choice. I am also a speaker on the subject and have done several podcast interviews and media posts. I continue to grow and evolve as my journey endures, and so do the tools in my tool kit.